Four years ago I paid my spiritual teacher to help me heal my numb vagina… only to have him talk my ear off for two hours about how I would be a writer, speaker and workshop leader in the field of sexuality.
At the end I told him all that sounded great, but where was the vagina healing past-life-soul-retrieval-healing session I’d come for?
His answer left me speechless: “You don’t need it. You’re going to do it yourself.”
And it turned out he was right. Two weeks later in the middle of sex, I had a spontaneous out of body experience where I was guided through my past to heal every memory of sexual shame and violation my soul had ever suffered. I woke up out of it healed of the numbness and full of sensation and pleasure in my whole body.
When I examine my past, it seems I was born to struggle with sex so I could overcome powerfully. I was made to transform sexual deficits into strengths and super powers.
I’ve overcome heavy sexual shame, body hate, performance anxiety, arousal problems, sexual pain and dysfunction, numbness, difficulty with orgasm, and debilitating unhealthy relationship and attachment issues. And I continue to confront and transform my painful places, struggles and insecurities into power and freedom.
The journey out of each one has given me insight and insider information I wouldn’t have without those difficult experiences. I feel so grateful for each trial, even the five torturous years sex hurt and I felt like a failure, and even all the tears I cried when I couldn’t seem to figure this ‘relationship’ thing and wondered if I ever could be loved.
I want to be clear now that I’m not sharing these things to show off. I’m sharing them because I genuinely believe you have the power to transform all obstacles as well.
Every person in this world deserves access to their full pleasure, a sense of autonomy, freedom and blissful orgasmic joy.
I want to guide you through your own sexual transformation. That is what my heart longs for and what I’m here for. I am here to give you the hacks I’ve learned to overcome obstacles and have more pleasure, and to show you your own divine sexual power so you can transform your own life.
Our world is full of suffering – the suffering of not loving, accepting and understanding our sexual selves. To be divided from your pleasure is to be shut off from one of your greatest sources of joy, confidence and well… intense yummy good feelings!
Sexuality is also a gate into the rest of your life. When you feel confident and alive in your orgasm, you have greater access to your personal power, unconditional love, healing, and creativity. Frankly, I could write a book on all the ways our sexuality, body image and orgasm intertwine with our daily lives.
To empower yourself in your body is to empower your whole life. Before real empowerment can happen though, we must embrace the transformation process. It’s more than just new sex information going in your brain, sexual transformation comes through accessing more of your authentic self and allowing your spirit to guide you into growth and healing.
Witnessing the shame, pain and self-hate embedded around sex in this world has been heart breaking for me. The first break happened in my heart when I didn’t love and accept myself. And as I saw the suffering that caused me, I woke up to see the pain that caused everyone else and my heart broke for the world too.
I’m not here to tell you that you’re doing it wrong or that you need to have more sex. Sexual empowerment is NOT about having more sex. I don’t want to turn you into *anything*. I want you to have the freedom to simply become more of *yourself*. Transformation is about opening up to who you authentically are as an orgasmic being. It’s about finding the power and permission to enjoy yourself fully the way that feels right, healthy and amazing to YOU.
We get that by owning and exploring all parts of ourselves, the light and the dark, and then transforming those difficult parts into more power, freedom and pleasure.
With that I want to share some things I wrote down that describe what transformation I am committed to bringing to the world.
Here’s what I intend and how I can help:
I want to guide the world through sexual transformation
I want to show every human the power, beauty and innocence in their pleasure
I want to celebrate the diversity and uniqueness of every human’s sexuality and physical form
I want the beauty of every person’s body, orgasm and complex and mysterious desire to be honored as breathtaking
I want to spread unconditional love and self-acceptance
I want to show the world it’s own magnificent divinity
I want the world to feel how orgasmic it is to truly love oneself