My own journey with sexuality started ten years ago. I woke up to see my own shame around my body, the shame of others and the pain that caused this world. I was heart-broken to hear how critical my friends were of their bodies and when it came to sexuality, I couldn’t figure out ‘why’ we didn’t talk openly about this most basic part of life.
Shortly after I became sexually active, I ran into problems. For five and a half years, I struggled with sexual dysfunction. My sex life was riddled with painful sexual experiences as I suffered a type of sexual discomfort called Vaginismus.
While I struggled with sexual dysfunction, my sex life, self-esteem and relationship became progressively worse. The pain took a toll on my psyche and I became enemies with my body, fighting it and wishing with everything in me for my pussy to feel differently than it did.
The Vaginismus took me on a powerful journey of self-acceptance and healing.
I learned to listen to my body and developed intuitive powers, sensing what it was feeling, needing and wanting, integrating what I learned into the whole of my sexuality and life. The day I gave up the war with my body was the day my healing started. I gave up trying to *fix* the pain and accepted me just the way I was. And ironically, my healing journey then began.
The healing journey progressed over six months and liberated me from sexual pain completely. It also opened me up to an enormous world of pleasure and sensation I had never known before. I went from the “good girl” who followed the rules of this world on how she ought to behave, to the empowered, free-spirited and orgasmic sexual woman I authentically am.
My sexuality has gone through countless iterations, transformations and revelations. And here is a place I share those stories. I am happy to offer myself as a guide to women going through their own sexual transformation or the brave explorer seeking knowledge and MORE.
Our world is full of judgments on sexuality and the body, but none of those judgments belong. Instead of judgment and shame, we deserve to discover what it’s like to truly love ourselves, to understand our orgasm and to embrace our authentic sexuality.
If you’ve taken a look at my blog here and still want to read more of my stories, I have an old blog you are welcome to peruse. I’ve published a few of the articles from there here, but the old blog has more. I’ll be adding the good stuff to this site, but for now, here is the link: www.shamhatsbedroom.wordpress.com